Thursday, January 13, 2011

For Tucson victims: Don't Rush the Healing

The whole country is mourning for the victims in Tucson, Ariz. This week, we'll face the funerals, ushering in a whole new wave of grief.

And then, quite abruptly, most of us will tune out. The length of public interest varies by tragedy, but the pattern is always the same. We put the event behind us and move on.

And we expect our victims to do the same. We will cut them slack, of course. They can grieve all month if they need to, maybe longer. It's healthier to move on, though. The sooner they can accept it the better.

Slap yourself the first time you hear that thought in your head. Do not let it escape your mouth.

The biggest lesson I learned in 10 years covering the massacre at Columbine High School was the pain we collectively inflicted upon the victims with our rush to get them healed.

Read the rest at AOL News, where I published this essay as an Opinion piece. (I gave them exclusive use, so I can't publish the whole thing here.)


  1. Rushed healing is the worst kind of treatment, because you never know what other problems you could be leaving behind. We must not forget the tragedy, so yes, we should let healing happen naturally instead of pretending it's not as tragic as it was.

  2. Time is the greatest healer. Grief is created for a reason and it is also part of the healing process that we should experience.